An Affair

A Testimony of One Woman’s Ultimate Life Coaching Experience

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A Parable of Masculine Spirit and Feminine Soul

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 “I Do Not Understand What I Do.” Rom. 7:15

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When I think back nine months ago and remember our marriage and the affair that my husband had with another woman, I feel like the whole experience must have been about a different person, not me.   And the most ironic thing is that I didn’t realize how unhappy I was.  But you did, though, so I guess that is all that mattered.

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I remember the first day we met with you.  I never thought my husband would want to return for a second visit.  As we were not living together at that point, we talked on the phone that night. My plan was to tell my husband that I did not want to return for another session and that I was sure he would not want to return either so we would have to figure out where to go from there. 

I remember feeling so mad with you because of a couple of things you said.  I did not want to see you again.  I was sure I did not like you.  So I could not believe when my husband said, “I’m pretty interested in what the guy has to say.  I think we should keep going.  What do you think?”

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What?

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I had thought it was going to be ME that had to fight HIM to go to counseling.  After only ONE VISIT with you, you had influence over him.  I did not even tell him that I did not want to go back.

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“He Who Loves His Wife Loves Himself” Eph. 5:2

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In the course of seven short months, a miracle has happened in both my girl’s lives, my husband’s life, and my own life.  When I called you that first day, NEVER did I dream that you were going to do so much work with me.  I thought our sessions would be all about chastising my husband for being such an awful husband to do something so hurtful to me by cheating on me.  I thought it was going to be about holding his sin over his head until he begged for mercy and agreed to be nice.

 

Man, was I wrong.

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Instead, you worked with me, teaching me how to love him, how to respect him, how to cherish and uplift him.  Yes, you showed me how to submit to him.  How is this fair?  And why have I been so willing to accept your teachings?  The whole thing is absurd to me.  But I am so glad that I have listened.  Because somewhere in the whole process, my husband has become a more loving, understanding, kind husband.

 

And who would EVER thought you would even end up healing my anguished heart over my haunting past.  I came to you for divorce advice.  That’s it.  How you have done what you have done is still beyond my comprehension.